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I don't think I'll ever forget this evening.<\/p>\n
Not because everything was perfect. It wasn't perfect at all. I was nervous, finished way too early, changed my outfit three times, and seriously considered canceling and pretending I had a sudden fever. But that's exactly why it feels so special now, as I sit here and still faintly smell of perfume.<\/p>\n
Perhaps I should start at the beginning.<\/p>\n
My real name is Leon, I'm 24, athletic, quite active, I run regularly, work out at the gym, and most people probably perceive me as a \u201enormal sporty guy.\u201c Dark hair, slim build, toned legs, broad shoulders, usually wearing a hoodie, sweatpants, and sneakers. Someone who drinks a protein shake in the morning but secretly watches romantic dating videos at night, as if that weren't a complete contradiction.<\/p>\n
But there's still Lea.<\/p>\n
Lea is not another person. Lea is me. Just one side of me that I've locked away for a long time.<\/p>\n
If I were Lea, I'd love to wear feminine clothing. Not exaggerated, not like a caricature, but beautiful, soft, elegant, and sometimes a little playful. I like dresses, slim skirts, soft cardigans, subtle makeup, well-groomed nails, and that moment when I look in the mirror and think: Yes, this feels right.<\/strong><\/p>\n For a long time, Lea was just something for my room. Door closed, curtains drawn, phone on silent. I put on makeup, tried on outfits, took pictures and deleted them again because I was afraid someone might see them. I told myself it was just a phase, just curiosity, just some private thing that should never get out.<\/p>\n But eventually, this hiding became harder than courage.<\/p>\n And then came the dating app.<\/p>\n I created the profile weeks ago. No face photo at first, just a side profile reflection, a black dress, my legs in tights, white sneakers, a bit blurry. The name: Lea. Age: 24. Interests: Coffee, running, good conversation, walks, men with humor.<\/p>\n I stared at that sentence for at least ten minutes.<\/p>\n Men with humor.<\/strong><\/p>\n Written so simply. And yet it was huge for me.<\/p>\n Because yes, I wanted to meet men. Not just write. Not just fantasize about what it would be like if someone saw me as Lea and still stayed. I wanted real dates. Real glances. Real conversations. That tingling sensation when you stand in front of a strange man and don't know if something beautiful is about to begin or if you'd rather disappear into the ground.<\/p>\n Tom wrote to me three days ago.<\/p>\n Tom was 31, tall, with a dark beard, friendly eyes, listed as a project manager and hobby chef on his profile. His first compliment wasn't cheap, wasn't uncomfortable, wasn't the typical \u201eHey sweetie\u201c that makes you want to close the app immediately.<\/p>\n He wrote:<\/p>\n \u201eYou have a very calm, beautiful aura in your picture. Coffee or a walk would surely be more pleasant than endless back-and-forth texting.\u201c<\/strong><\/p>\n I still remember reading that message and immediately getting nervous. Not because it was bad. But because it was good. Too good to hide behind excuses.<\/p>\n We wrote a bit. He didn't ask in a weird way. He was curious but respectful. I told him directly that I'm a crossdresser, that I mostly present as male in daily life but like to express myself as Lea. I expected it to get weird then. That he would ask some uncomfortable question or withdraw.<\/p>\n Instead, he wrote:<\/p>\n \u201eThanks for being open. I'd like to get to know Lea if you're comfortable with that.\u201c<\/strong><\/p>\n I've definitely read this sentence five times.<\/p>\n Today was the day.<\/p>\n My first real date as Lea.<\/p>\n I had this nervous pulling in my stomach all afternoon. After my workout, I just wanted to shower, get ready, and stay relaxed. Haha. Very funny. My bathroom looked like a minor beauty accident with a sporty background afterwards. Razor, body lotion, hairspray, powder, mascara, lipstick, two outfits on the floor, one on the chair, one halfway over the sink. I was a mess with a racing pulse.<\/p>\n In the end, I opted for a simple black dress that didn't hide my athletic figure, but somehow softened it. I paired it with thin pantyhose, white sneakers, and a short denim jacket. Not too elegant, not too flashy. More like I wanted to say: I'm Lea, but I don't have to prove anything to anyone.<\/strong><\/p>\n I kept my makeup subtle. A bit of concealer, some mascara, lightly tinted lip balm. I styled my hair more loosely than usual, not so severe. When I was done, I stood in front of the mirror and looked at myself for a long time.<\/p>\n Leon was still there.<\/p>\n But Lea was there too.<\/p>\n And for the first time, I didn't have to decide which of the two was more real.<\/p>\n I was both.<\/p>\n The way to the meeting point was bad and beautiful at the same time. We had arranged to meet in front of a small caf\u00e9, not directly in the city center, but on a quieter street. I was, of course, way too early. Twelve minutes too early. Twelve minutes is an eternity when you're waiting as a crossdresser for your first date with a stranger and suspect every passing car of watching you.<\/p>\n I pretended to read the news. In reality, I checked the clock every three seconds.<\/p>\n Then Tom came.<\/p>\n I recognized him immediately. Tall, dark blue jacket, neat beard, that calm smile from his photo. He didn't look surprised, not unsure, not appraising. He just looked at me and smiled.<\/p>\n \u201eLea?\u201c he asked.<\/p>\n My voice was gone for a moment. Completely gone. I just nodded.<\/p>\n \u201eHi,\u201c he said. \u201eGood to see you.\u201c<\/p>\n Not: \u201eWow.\u201c Only: Nice to see you.<\/strong><\/p>\n I believe that's exactly when a first stone fell from my heart.<\/p>\n \u201eHi,\u201c I said finally. \u201eI'm a bit nervous.\u201c<\/p>\n Tom smiled softer. \u201eMe too, a little. So, that makes two of us already.\u201c<\/p>\n That was sweet. Maybe also a lie, because he seemed noticeably more relaxed than I did. But it helped.<\/p>\n We went to the cafe. The worst moment was the walk to the table. I felt every stare, even though probably hardly anyone was actually looking. My head, of course, turned it into a complete drama. The woman at the next table. The man at the counter. The server. All supposedly immediately part of a secret jury.<\/p>\n But Tom just kept talking. About the weather, about the coffee there, about the completely insignificant construction noise on his street. And precisely because it was so normal, I started to calm down. He didn't make a sensation out of me. He didn't treat me like an experiment. He just sat at a table with me, as if it were the most natural thing in the world.<\/p>\n Perhaps that was precisely the most beautiful part.<\/p>\n We ordered cappuccinos. I held my cup with both hands because I didn't know what to do with my fingers. Tom noticed, but said nothing. Instead, he asked if I ran often.<\/p>\n That made me laugh. \u201eCan you tell?\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eA little. You're sitting like someone who could bolt at any moment.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eThat's not sportsmanship, that's a readiness to flee.\u201c<\/p>\n He laughed. Warm, genuine, not too loud.<\/p>\n \u201eThen I'd rather stay friendly.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eGood strategy.\u201c<\/p>\n The conversation became lighter. We talked about sports, food, dating apps, and how strange it is to meet strangers you previously only knew from their profile picture and a few sentences. Tom told a story about a date where the other person only talked about tax optimization for twenty minutes. I told him that I almost canceled because I was afraid of running into someone I knew on my way to the cafe.<\/p>\n He became more serious then.<\/p>\n \u201eI find that hard to imagine,\u201c he said.<\/p>\n I looked into my cup. \u201eSometimes. Not always. But today.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eAnd yet you are here.\u201c<\/p>\n I nodded slowly. \u201eYes.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eThat's pretty brave.\u201c<\/p>\n I wanted to object immediately. To say that I'm not brave at all. That I'm just sitting in a dress in a caf\u00e9, trembling, and hoping I don't look weird. But somehow, I didn't feel like making myself smaller.<\/p>\n So I just said, \u201eThanks.\u201c<\/p>\n Tom smiled. \u201eGladly.\u201c<\/p>\n After the cafe, he asked if I wanted to walk a little further. Usually, I would have said I had to go. Too much closeness, too much reality, too much risk. But the evening didn't feel dangerous anymore. Just exciting.<\/p>\n So we went for a walk.<\/p>\n The streets were dark, but the shop windows glowed warmly. I noticed I walked more relaxed next to Tom than I did alone. Strange, really. Alone, I felt more visible. Next to him, I felt protected, without him trying to show off.<\/p>\n \u201eMay I ask you something personal?\u201c he said at some point.<\/p>\n I raised an eyebrow. \u201eDepends if I have to run away afterward.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eFair enough.\u201c He smiled. \u201eWhat are you looking for here? Like on dating apps? More adventure, more relationship, more experimentation?\u201c<\/p>\n The question caught me off guard. Not unpleasantly, but directly.<\/p>\n I thought for a moment.<\/p>\n \u201eI think I'm looking for encounters where I don't have to hide,\u201c I said. \u201eMaybe romance, too. Maybe excitement. I'm not sure yet. I want to meet men, but not be treated like a role. Not like a secret thing. Not like a fantasy that you push away afterward.\u201c<\/p>\n Tom listened attentively.<\/p>\n \u201eThat sounds very reasonable,\u201c he said.<\/p>\n \u201eAnd you?\u201c<\/p>\n He looked forward briefly. \u201eI'm looking for someone who feels real. I know that sounds cheesy.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eA little.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eThanks for the honesty.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201ePlease.\u201c<\/p>\n We both laughed.<\/p>\n Then it became quiet again.<\/p>\n We were standing next to each other at a traffic light. A small group of young people was coming toward us, laughing, loud, maybe a little drunk. Something in me tensed up immediately. My back straightened, my gaze dropped to the ground. I hated that reflex. That automatic shrinking.<\/p>\n Tom noticed it.<\/p>\n He didn't make a big deal about it. He just stood a little closer beside me, not possessive, not dramatic. Just there.<\/p>\n The group walked by. Nothing happened.<\/p>\n Of course, nothing happened.<\/p>\n And yet after that, it felt like I had just passed a small test.<\/p>\n \u201eEverything okay?\u201c Tom asked quietly.<\/p>\n I nodded. \u201eYeah. Just a brief mental movie.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eUnderstood.\u201c<\/p>\n He said nothing more. And that was precisely good.<\/p>\n Later, we stood in front of the bus stop. It wasn't late in the evening, but I was completely full inside. Full of impressions. Of courage. Of Tom. Of Lea. Of this feeling that my life might be bigger than I had allowed myself to believe until now.<\/p>\n \u201eI found the evening to be nice,\u201c said Tom.<\/p>\n My heart did that embarrassing little leap.<\/p>\n \u201eMe too,\u201c I said.<\/p>\n \u201eWould you meet me again?\u201c<\/p>\n There it was. The question.<\/p>\n I could have been cool. Casual. Mysterious.<\/p>\n But I was just honest.<\/p>\n \u201eYes. I'd love to.\u201c<\/p>\n Tom smiled. \u201eGood.\u201c<\/p>\n For a moment, I thought he was going to hug me. Or ask me something. Or do anything that would make the evening even more perfect. Instead, he just raised his hand, very gently brushed a strand of hair out of my face that the wind had blown there, and looked at me.<\/p>\n Not long.<\/p>\n But long enough.<\/p>\n \u201eThen text me when you're home safe, Lea.\u201c<\/p>\n Lea.<\/p>\n He said my name so casually.<\/p>\n Not as a game. Not with that strange tone some men have when they find something exotic.<\/p>\n Just Lea.<\/p>\n On the bus home, I sat by the window and saw my reflection in the dark glass. The dress. The jacket. The lips. The slightly tired eyes. I didn\u2019t look perfect. My makeup wasn't completely fresh from the evening, my hair was tousled by the wind, and my feet hurt a little.<\/p>\n But I looked happy.<\/p>\n At home, I slipped off my sneakers, placed them neatly by the door, and stood in the hallway for a moment longer. I didn't want to shed the evening just yet. Not the dress. Not the feeling. Not Lea.<\/p>\n Then I wrote Tom:<\/p>\n
Not: \u201eAwesome.\u201c
Not just any unpleasant saying.<\/p>\n