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I knew the moment I woke up that something was going to happen today.<\/p>\n
Not because I can see the future. I wish. Then I could have saved myself some embarrassing dating app conversations, bad outfit choices, and three completely unnecessary mirror meltdowns. But today, there was just something in the air. A quiet, tingling feeling, as if the day already knew it wanted to be important.<\/p>\n
Tom wrote last night:<\/p>\n
\u201ePart 3? I have an idea. Some exercise first, then coffee. I think that suits you.\u201c<\/strong><\/p>\n Movement.<\/p>\n Naturally, that immediately made me curious. Because sports are my area. I know my way around there. I feel safe there. When I run, when my body works, when my breath finds a rhythm, then I'm not so much in my head. And that's exactly why his idea was somehow perfect.<\/p>\n He suggested a walk around the lake. Not too secluded, not too crowded, with a small cafe at the end of the route. I thought it was sweet that he had apparently really listened. That he hadn't just suggested some standard date, but something that suited me. Suited Leon. Suited Lea. Suited both of us.<\/p>\n And that's exactly what made me nervous.<\/p>\n Because the more Tom saw me, the less I could hide behind the excuse that it was all just a little experiment.<\/p>\n I believe you shouldn't feel too much after only two dates. That must be written somewhere in a secret dating rulebook that normal people know and that I apparently never received. But my heart isn't very good with bureaucracy. It just does what it wants. And right now, it quite clearly wanted Tom.<\/p>\n After breakfast, I went for a run. Just five kilometers, easy, not too hard. I wanted to clear my head, but I didn't want to look like I'd lost a half-marathon of feelings before the date. The run felt good. Cold air, quiet streets, music in my ears. Still, Tom was there the whole time. Not next to me, but in my thoughts.<\/p>\n His hand.<\/p>\n His \u201eGood night, Lea\u201c.<\/p>\n His sentence: \u201eI'm asking again.\u201c<\/strong><\/p>\n I've read these four words at least twenty times since yesterday. Maybe thirty times. Completely undignified. But I'm admitting it here because you're my diary and you already know me at all my emotional low points anyway.<\/p>\n After showering, I stood before my wardrobe again. This time, I didn't want to look too elegant. A walk by the lake in a dress would have been possible, but I wanted to wear something sportier that still felt like \"me.\" I decided on black, figure-hugging leggings that looked more like streetwear than gym wear, paired with a longer, cream-colored hoodie that draped softly and made my silhouette more gentle. Over that, a short black jacket. White sneakers, of course. Without them, I wouldn't have been emotionally ready for action.<\/p>\n For makeup, I kept it fresh and subtle. A bit of concealer, mascara, a touch of blush, tinted lip balm. I tied my hair back loosely, but let a few strands fall around my face. In the mirror, I looked sporty yet soft. Not overtly feminine, not hiddenly masculine. More like Lea had decided today to be her own version of casual.<\/p>\n And for the first time, I didn't think: Can I go out like this?<\/strong><\/p>\n But Yes, that's how I'm going out.<\/strong><\/p>\n That might sound like a small difference.<\/p>\n For me, it was an entire continent.<\/p>\n Tom was waiting at the entrance to the Seaway. He was wearing a dark jacket, jeans, and sneakers, and when he saw me, he immediately smiled, as if he had been really looking forward to seeing me. Not politely. Not nicely. But genuinely.<\/p>\n \u201eHey, Lea,\u201c he said.<\/p>\n I don't think I'll ever get used to how beautiful my name sounds coming from his mouth.<\/p>\n \u201eHey,\u201c I said. \u201eI'm ready for your athletic date test.\u201c<\/p>\n He looked down at me, again only briefly, but with that warm gaze that had become dangerously familiar to me.<\/p>\n \u201eYou look like you're going to hang me.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eMaybe I will.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eThen I must be charming enough for you to wait.\u201c<\/p>\n I grinned. \u201eLet's see.\u201c<\/p>\n We set off, and this time it was easier from the start. No stiff beginning, no strenuous searching for topics. We weren't yet as familiar as people who have known each other forever, but we weren't complete strangers anymore either. It was that beautiful in-between state where every conversation is still new, but you don't have to start from scratch anymore.<\/p>\n The lake lay still. The water was dark blue, the sky light gray, and a few couples, elderly people, joggers, people with dogs were walking on the path. Of course, I still noticed that I was visible. As Lea. Next to Tom. But the fear was no longer so loud. It was still there, somewhere in the background, like a radio in another room.<\/p>\n Tom told me about his week. I told him about my workout, about a guy at the gym who was way too motivated and made noises while bench-pressing like he was fighting a dragon. Tom laughed so hard he stopped in his tracks for a moment.<\/p>\n \u201eYou're much funnier when you're not trying to seem controlled,\u201c he said.<\/p>\n I looked at him, playing shocked. \u201eI always seem controlled.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eLea.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eWhat?\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eYou almost tripped over your own shoelaces just now because you were dramatically mimicking a dumbbell motion.\u201c<\/p>\n I looked down. My shoelace was indeed open.<\/p>\n \u201eThat was performance.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eVery convincing.\u201c<\/p>\n I bent down to tie it. As I did, I noticed Tom stop next to me instead of just walking on. A small thing. But I registered it. He waited. He always waited. For my steps, my answers, my boundaries. Maybe that's one of the reasons I soften so slowly around him.<\/p>\n As we continued, our hands brushed again briefly. This time, I didn't wait as long. I took his hand.<\/p>\n Just because.<\/p>\n I, Lea, took a man's hand on a public path by the lake.<\/p>\n I'm writing this now as if it were a news report, but internally it was actually a sensation.<\/p>\n Tom looked over at me and smiled.<\/p>\n \u201eBrave today,\u201c he said softly.<\/p>\n \u201eI had carbohydrates for breakfast.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eAh, I see.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eVery important.\u201c<\/p>\n His fingers gently closed around mine.<\/p>\n We walked in silence for a while. Not because we had nothing to say. But because nothing was needed at that moment. The lake, the cool air, his hand, my hand. The world didn't need to offer anything more for a few minutes.<\/p>\n Eventually, we sat on a bench overlooking the water. A few ducks swam by, as if they had their schedules more under control than I did. Tom didn't let go of my hand. Neither did I.<\/p>\n \u201eHow are you doing right now?\u201c he asked.<\/p>\n I looked at the lake. \u201eGood. Nervous. But good.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eBecause of me?\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eA little.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eShould I behave less attractively?\u201c<\/p>\n I laughed. \u201eThat would be helpful, yes.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eDifficult. I'm doing my best.\u201c<\/p>\n I nudged him lightly with my shoulder. \u201eIdiot.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eBut a pleasant one?\u201c<\/p>\n I pretended to think. \u201eSo far, yes.\u201c<\/p>\n That smile again.<\/p>\n Then he became a bit more serious. \u201eI wanted to ask you something else. It's nothing serious.\u201c<\/p>\n My body tensed automatically. \u201eOkay.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eDo you actually want me to call you just Lea? Or Leon too? I don't want to do anything wrong.\u201c<\/p>\n This question struck me. Not like a blow. More like a hand on a spot that often goes unnoticed.<\/p>\n I thought for a long time.<\/p>\n \u201eWhen I'm like this, then Lea,\u201c I said. \u201eIt feels right. But Leon isn't wrong. I'm not someone else. It's more... hard to explain.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eTry it.\u201c<\/p>\n I exhaled. \u201eLeon is the part of me that I learned to get through everyday life with. The part that does, functions, seems strong. Lea is the part that for a long time was only allowed to breathe in secret. I don't want to trade one for the other. I just don't want to pretend anymore that Lea doesn't exist.\u201c<\/p>\n Tom nodded slowly.<\/p>\n \u201eI understand,\u201c he said.<\/p>\n \u201eReally?\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eMaybe not completely. But enough to take it seriously.\u201c<\/p>\n I looked at him. That's exactly why I liked him. He didn't pretend to understand everything immediately. He didn't make grand speeches. He just stayed honest.<\/p>\n \u201eThank you,\u201c I said.<\/p>\n \u201eGladly.\u201c<\/p>\n Then we looked back at the water. A light wind picked up and blew a strand of hair into my face. I went to brush it away, but Tom was faster. He raised his hand, paused briefly, as if wordlessly asking if it was okay, and when I didn't pull back, he gently brushed it aside for me.<\/p>\n His fingers brushed my cheek very briefly.<\/p>\n But it was enough.<\/p>\n My heart immediately became unreasonable.<\/p>\n \u201eLea,\u201c he said softly.<\/p>\n I looked at him.<\/p>\n There was that moment. The same as yesterday, but this time longer. Clearer. No street full of people, no bus about to arrive, no excuse. Just a bench by the lake, his hand in mine, and that question, not yet spoken.<\/p>\n \u201eI'll ask again,\u201c he said.<\/p>\n My breath caught for a moment.<\/p>\n \u201eMay I kiss you?\u201c<\/p>\n This time I didn't want to wait.<\/p>\n This time there was no \u201enot yet\u201c.<\/p>\n This time, there was only this warm, fluttering, honest yes within me.<\/p>\n \u201eYes,\u201c I said.<\/p>\n Tom approached slowly. Very slowly. Almost unfairly slowly. I could have laughed because those few centimeters felt like a whole journey. But then he was there.<\/p>\n His lips touched mine.<\/p>\n Gentle.<\/p>\n Careful.<\/p>\n And yet it was as if something was opening up inside me.<\/p>\n Der Kuss war nicht lang. Nicht wild. Nicht filmisch perfekt. Ich glaube, unsere Nasen waren kurz im Weg, und ich war bestimmt viel zu angespannt. Aber es war echt. So echt, dass ich danach nicht wusste, wohin ich schauen sollte.<\/p>\n Tom blieb nah, aber nicht zu nah.<\/p>\n \u201eOkay?\u201c, fragte er leise.<\/p>\n Ich nickte. \u201eMehr als okay.\u201c<\/p>\n Er l\u00e4chelte. \u201eGut.\u201c<\/p>\n Ich musste lachen, weil ich sonst vielleicht geweint h\u00e4tte. Nicht traurig, sondern weil mein K\u00f6rper manchmal bei zu viel Gef\u00fchl einfach irgendeinen Ausgang sucht.<\/p>\n \u201eIch bin gerade sehr professionell\u201c, sagte ich.<\/p>\n \u201eExtrem.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eTotal souver\u00e4n.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eFast schon einsch\u00fcchternd.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eGut.\u201c<\/p>\n Dann k\u00fcsste er mich nochmal.<\/p>\n Diesmal war ich weniger \u00fcberrascht. Ich legte meine Hand leicht an seinen Arm, sp\u00fcrte den Stoff seiner Jacke unter meinen Fingern und lie\u00df mich ein kleines bisschen mehr in den Moment fallen. Nicht komplett. Daf\u00fcr war ich zu nerv\u00f6s. Aber genug.<\/p>\n Als wir uns l\u00f6sten, schwamm eine Ente genau vor uns vorbei und quakte.<\/p>\n Tom sah zur Ente. Dann zu mir.<\/p>\n \u201eKritik vom Publikum\u201c, sagte er.<\/p>\n Ich brach komplett in Lachen aus.<\/p>\n Und genau dadurch wurde alles leichter. Der erste Kuss als Lea war passiert. Nicht in einer perfekten romantischen Kulisse ohne Fehler, sondern mit Wind, offener Nervosit\u00e4t und einer urteilenden Ente. Ehrlich gesagt passt das ziemlich gut zu mir.<\/p>\n Sp\u00e4ter gingen wir weiter zum Caf\u00e9 am See. Ich war danach gleichzeitig ruhiger und v\u00f6llig durcheinander. Meine Lippen f\u00fchlten sich an, als h\u00e4tten sie ein Geheimnis. Ich fragte mich, ob man mir ansehen konnte, dass ich gerade gek\u00fcsst worden war. Wahrscheinlich nicht. Aber ich f\u00fchlte mich, als m\u00fcsste irgendwo ein kleines Warnschild \u00fcber meinem Kopf blinken.<\/p>\n Im Caf\u00e9 bestellten wir Kaffee und ein St\u00fcck Kuchen zum Teilen. Tom bestand darauf, dass man nach einem See-Spaziergang Kuchen essen m\u00fcsse, weil das sonst sportlich unausgewogen sei. Ich widersprach nicht. Ich bin zwar diszipliniert, aber nicht lebensfeindlich.<\/p>\n Wir sa\u00dfen am Fenster. Seine Hand lag auf dem Tisch, meine daneben. Erst ber\u00fchrten sich nur unsere Fingerspitzen. Dann schob ich meine Hand unter seine. Diesmal ohne gro\u00dfes Drama. Fast selbstverst\u00e4ndlich.<\/p>\n \u201eDu bist heute anders\u201c, sagte Tom.<\/p>\n \u201eSchlimm?\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eNein. Offener.\u201c<\/p>\n Ich sah in meinen Kaffee. \u201eVielleicht, weil du mich nicht dr\u00e4ngst.\u201c<\/p>\n Er sagte nichts sofort. Dann: \u201eIch will dich nicht irgendwohin ziehen, wo du nicht selbst hinwillst.\u201c<\/p>\n Ich glaube, genau da wurde mir klar, dass ich auf Dates bisher oft Angst vor dem Tempo anderer M\u00e4nner hatte. Nicht nur k\u00f6rperlich. Auch emotional. Manche wollten sofort eine Rolle. Sofort ein Geheimnis. Sofort N\u00e4he, aber keine Verantwortung. Tom war anders. Er war nicht perfekt, das will ich gar nicht behaupten. Aber er wirkte wie jemand, der nicht nur Lea aufregend fand, sondern mich dahinter auch wirklich kennenlernen wollte.<\/p>\n Und das machte ihn gef\u00e4hrlich.<\/p>\n Auf die gute Art.<\/p>\n Nach dem Kaffee gingen wir langsam zur\u00fcck Richtung Haltestelle. Der Abend war inzwischen dunkel geworden, und die Lichter spiegelten sich wieder auf dem Wasser. Wir gingen nicht die ganze Zeit Hand in Hand, aber immer wieder. Manchmal lie\u00df ich los, um meine Tasche zu richten. Manchmal nahm er meine Hand wieder. Manchmal ich seine.<\/p>\n Es war sch\u00f6n, dass es nicht immer eine gro\u00dfe Entscheidung sein musste.<\/p>\n Kurz vor der Haltestelle blieb ich stehen.<\/p>\n \u201eTom?\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eJa?\u201c<\/p>\n Ich wusste selbst nicht genau, was ich sagen wollte. Nur, dass etwas rausmusste.<\/p>\n \u201eDanke, dass du gefragt hast.\u201c<\/p>\n Er verstand sofort.<\/p>\n \u201eBeim Kuss?\u201c<\/p>\n Ich nickte.<\/p>\n \u201eOf course.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eF\u00fcr dich vielleicht nat\u00fcrlich. F\u00fcr mich nicht immer.\u201c<\/p>\n Sein Blick wurde weich. \u201eDann frage ich weiter.\u201c<\/p>\n Mein Herz machte wieder dieses Ding. Dieses dumme, sch\u00f6ne, gef\u00e4hrliche Ding.<\/p>\n \u201eGut\u201c, sagte ich.<\/p>\n Der Bus kam diesmal nicht sofort. Ausnahmsweise hatte das Universum etwas Taktgef\u00fchl. Wir standen unter der kleinen \u00dcberdachung, nebeneinander, Schultern fast ber\u00fchrend. Es war k\u00fchl, aber mir war warm.<\/p>\n \u201eTeil 3 war gut?\u201c, fragte er.<\/p>\n \u201eTeil 3 war sehr gut.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eDann gibt es Teil 4?\u201c<\/p>\n Ich l\u00e4chelte. \u201eWenn die Ente zustimmt.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eIch schreibe ihr.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eSehr seri\u00f6s.\u201c<\/p>\n \u201eIch bin ein Mann mit Kontakten.\u201c<\/p>\n Ich lachte und lehnte f\u00fcr einen kurzen Moment meinen Kopf an seine Schulter. Nur kurz. Aber ich tat es. Und er blieb einfach still stehen, als h\u00e4tte er verstanden, dass dieser kleine Moment f\u00fcr mich gr\u00f6\u00dfer war als jede gro\u00dfe Geste.<\/p>\n Als mein Bus kam, k\u00fcsste er mich nicht nochmal. Er dr\u00fcckte nur meine Hand und sagte: \u201eGute Nacht, Lea.\u201c<\/p>\n Ich stieg ein, setzte mich ans Fenster und sah ihn drau\u00dfen stehen. Diesmal winkte ich. Nicht verlegen, nicht heimlich. Einfach so.<\/p>\n Zu Hause stand ich lange vor dem Spiegel.<\/p>\n Meine Haare waren vom Wind zerzaust. Mein Make-up hatte den Tag erstaunlich \u00fcberlebt. Meine Lippen gl\u00e4nzten noch ein bisschen. Ich sah sportlich aus, weich, m\u00fcde, gl\u00fccklich und irgendwie neu.<\/p>\n Ich dachte an den Kuss.<\/p>\n An die Bank.<\/p>\n An seine Frage.<\/p>\n An mein Ja.<\/p>\n Then I wrote Tom:<\/p>\n